We all have them. Things we whisper only in the circle of special needs friends. Sometimes we don’t even whisper them there. We save them to scream into our pillow or for when we are alone in the dark.
These are the deepest, darkest secrets of the special needs world and we are going to be brave and share them here. They may be anonymous, they may not, but we are going to start talking so the world is aware. Knowledge is power, and there is strength in sharing.
I’ll go first.
I Want Run Away.
I know it’s a fantasy to think we can live without having any responsibilities, but a girl can dream, right? I want to run away and only be responsible for myself. Not my husband and his pee around the toilet seat. Not my son who has autism. Not my daughter who has medical issues. Just me! I want to only do bills I create. Not SSI for my son, not medical bills for my daughter. I want to clean the house that I use. Not the one that many people use. I am protesting dusting right now, it’s been a full month and no one seems to care but me which is even more depressing.
For most parents, when their kiddos go off to college or jobs or wherever, there is light at the end of the tunnel as some of the day-to-day caregiving responsibilities are lifted from their plate. But as a special needs caregiver, I get to keep the full plate of responsibilities forever and the thought of that is exhausting and overwhelming somedays. After 20+ years and more to come, I am tired. I want to run away, and start a new chapter in my book of life that features just me (well, and maybe my dogs).
Molly
Do you ever just want to run away?
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